There may come a time when you start to feel as if you simply can’t keep on being your elderly family member’s family caregiver. This is more common than you might think and there’s nothing wrong with it, but you need to make this change the right way.
Get Clear on What You Need
This can be a really confusing time for you. You’re possibly starting to realize that your own needs aren’t being met and that caregiving itself isn’t working for you. The first thing that you need to do is to get crystal clear about what you need and want. If possible, talk to a therapist to help you work through how you’re feeling and what you need to do. Only after you’re as clear as you can possibly be can you get to the right solution.
Practice What You Want to Say
Once you know that it is time for you to step away from caregiving, you need to practice what you’re going to say. Other family members might not understand the day-to-day challenges of being a family caregiver, so you have to be clear with them about what is going on. Don’t try to express things in euphemisms, because that’s only going to muddy the waters. Do your best to lay old baggage to the side.
Set up a Backup Plan
It helps if you have a backup plan in place before you step aside. Take the time to work out what that backup plan is going to be. Perhaps you already have senior care providers who can take over the bulk of the daily tasks. Or maybe another family member has expressed a desire to step up if you need time away. Get creative about what you can do to ensure that even if you’re stepping back, your elderly family member still has the care that she needs.
Stick to What You Need
Guilt is a powerful motivator and whether you’re giving yourself a guilt trip or other family members are trying to guilt you into staying, you need to know your own mind and heart. If this is truly what is best for you and for your senior, then stick with your plan to step away. Sticking around out of guilt is only going to make the situation worse and breed resentment.
There’s no shame in needing to step back from being a caregiver. No one knows how being a caregiver will affect them until they’re right there in the situation. What’s important is that you’re taking care of yourself and helping your senior to find another solution.
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