An Elightening Story for Seniors about Aging

Elder Care in Canandaigua, NY  One Senior Learns: Happiness Comes from Being Yourself

Elder Care in Canandaigua, NY David Goff, a contributor to ChangingAging.org wrote a beautiful article called “Happiness – A Report from the Slow Lane.” Throughout the article, David talks about being part of a group of aging adults and everything he learned about what it really means to be happy.

David’s first realization came when during a group, each member was introducing themselves and saying something positive about getting older. While listening to the other members David said, “I was struck by the impression that I was surrounded by a lot of people who had become themselves.” This realization grew throughout the night when he began to understand becoming older for many people meant “there were no roles, rules, or expectations, other than our own.” Hearing this allowed David to understand that getting older meant more freedom to be one’s self.

David went on to learn despite every difficult situation, event, and emotion he had gone through, it was really just bringing him to the point where he could be himself. He also became aware there is a difference between being old and being an elder. Becoming an elder “seemed to rest on choices that people made at the most difficult times in their life.” David then understood that choosing to accept himself allowed him to be:

  • Sensitive
  • Different
  • Foolish
  • Uncertain
  • Authentic
  • Crazy
  • Himself

All of the different parts of him, good and bad, that make up who is really is.

Weeks after this meeting, David continued to ponder what happiness really meant. He began to see that throughout his life he had been looking for happiness from outside sources rather than looking for it within himself. He says, “I realize that circumstances don’t have to determine my happiness.” He goes on to share the importance of choosing to be happy every day and focusing his attention on his strengths. He realizes that just by being himself and accepting himself he is able to help others and become a happier person.

David learned throughout this experience that truly being happy means accepting one’s self. Happiness does not come from other people, places, or things, it comes from inside. If you want to learn more about David’s journey to happiness, check out http://changingaging.org/blog/happiness-a-report-from-the-slow-lane/.

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